{"id":7864,"date":"2021-01-25T14:31:46","date_gmt":"2021-01-25T14:31:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/nancyalvarez.com\/?p=7864"},"modified":"2023-04-02T14:22:59","modified_gmt":"2023-04-02T18:22:59","slug":"el-manejo-del-dinero-y-la-pareja","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dranancy.com\/el-manejo-del-dinero-y-la-pareja\/","title":{"rendered":"El manejo del dinero y la pareja"},"content":{"rendered":"

Did you know that 80% of divorces in the United States are caused by unresolved conflicts over money management?<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

When I arrived in Miami, many years ago, I was surprised to read, in one of the most important newspapers in Florida, the results of a study: most marriages were carried out not \u00abfor love\u00bb, as the famous song says Dominican, but simply and simply \u00abfor money.\u00bb<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

As I read it, I remembered how before women, to marry, had to have money that their parents gave to the husband. <\/span>I believed that this was something of the past and, furthermore, that it was over … How far from reality it was!<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Is it okay for a person to choose a partner based on money? <\/span>Actually today it is known that this is not healthy, nor does it work.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

1-Marriage is in itself very difficult. <\/span>As my beloved professor Dr. Pedro Savage used to say, \u00abmarriage is a space of conflict to grow\u2026 If we grow up, we will have moments of happiness\u00bb. <\/span>And I never tire of repeating something I learned with the fabulous teacher and friend, Dr. Vicente Vargas: \u00abfor love to work, loving is not enough.\u00bb<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

With this in mind, even being deeply in love, living together is difficult. <\/span>What would it be like without love and just out of interest? <\/span>As the famous saying goes: \u00abThis is more difficult than a forced marriage.\u00bb<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

2-A marriage for economic interest is not a marriage; <\/span>even if they have signed thousands of contracts and then go to church and swear before a priest that they will be together until death do them part. <\/span>A true marriage is built on trust, relational justice, reciprocity, and intimacy, among other things. <\/span>None of this has to do with money.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

3-Formerly, men were in charge of money. <\/span>At present, it concerns the couple. <\/span>When there is no transparency about money management, things do not work and conflicts start. <\/span>If they are not resolved, they end in divorce or a marriage that does not really exist. <\/span>They are only supported. <\/span>And there the church arises. <\/span>You can be the cathedral, but the couple begins to have chapels and churches. <\/span>In other words, the lover, the lover, the other or the other emerges. <\/span>It is very common in this time, sadly.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

4-Also appears the \u00abfinancial infidelity\u00bb. <\/span>Or what is the same, cheating on your partner about finances. <\/span>Every couple should have a budget that they both respect. <\/span>That each one contributes to the extent that they win. <\/span>Take out common expenses and an amount of your own to spend freely. <\/span>Let’s not forget to save, because that money belongs to the family. <\/span>The couple must speak clearly about these issues, reach certain agreements, and respect them. <\/span>The lie does not fit in a true marriage.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Did you know that 80% of divorces in the United States are caused by unresolved conflicts over money management? When I arrived in Miami, many years ago, I was surprised to read, in one of the most important newspapers in Florida, the results of a study: most marriages were carried out not \u00abfor love\u00bb, as […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":7865,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"rank_math_lock_modified_date":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[115,21,15,23],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-7864","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-asi-piensa-nancy","category-general","category-parejas","category-sin-categoria"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/dranancy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7864"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/dranancy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/dranancy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dranancy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dranancy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=7864"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/dranancy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7864\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":7936,"href":"https:\/\/dranancy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7864\/revisions\/7936"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dranancy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/7865"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/dranancy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=7864"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dranancy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=7864"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dranancy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=7864"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}