{"id":2107,"date":"2014-06-09T12:43:15","date_gmt":"2014-06-09T12:43:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/192.154.101.236\/~nancyalv\/?p=2107"},"modified":"2023-04-02T14:33:08","modified_gmt":"2023-04-02T18:33:08","slug":"el-divorcio-y-los-hijos","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dranancy.com\/el-divorcio-y-los-hijos\/","title":{"rendered":"El divorcio y los hijos"},"content":{"rendered":"
I read on the cover of a magazine something in relation to couples and the need to avoid <\/span><\/span>divorce<\/span><\/span><\/a> since it affects children. <\/span>Did they discover America? <\/span>I am really concerned about ignorance on this subject, so I address it over and over again, to see if people and the media understand it.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n The first thing is to define what others call \u00aba good <\/span><\/span>divorce<\/span><\/span><\/a> .\u00bb <\/span>That does not exist, because for there to be a good <\/span><\/span>divorce<\/span><\/span><\/a> , you need the same as for there to be a good marriage.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n More than 30 years ago, at the press conference for <\/span><\/span>Only for Adults<\/span><\/span><\/em> , my first TV program in the Dominican Republic, I said that education was obsolete and that we were learning things that were not really important for life. <\/span>It is sad to see that education is still a dinosaur, at least in relation to this issue. <\/span>The surprising thing is that this often includes even a college education. <\/span>A psychology Ph.D. student recently told me that she had NEVER received a <\/span><\/span>Sex Education<\/span><\/span><\/a> class <\/span>and that Family Therapy <\/span>classes <\/span>were electives. <\/span>How in the XXI century a psychologist can help someone being a sexual and family illiterate?<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n Nobody teaches us the most important tasks in life. <\/span>We learn them by sheer blows and with serious consequences for <\/span><\/span>couples,<\/span><\/span><\/a> families, children and therefore, for society. <\/span>Who taught you to be a father or mother? <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n Who taught you to be a <\/span><\/span>couple<\/span><\/span><\/a> ? <\/span>Were you educated sexually? <\/span>Do you know what makes a family functional?<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n Do you know how to choose a <\/span><\/span>partner<\/span><\/span><\/a> , when to marry and when not? <\/span>The shameful thing is that today all that is science. <\/span>And instead of teaching it in schools and universities, nonsense is being repeated, like the famous abstinence.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n Whenever a marriage can be saved, it must be saved, especially if there are children. <\/span>That means resolving conflicts and seeking help from a good <\/span><\/span>couples<\/span><\/span><\/a> and family therapist <\/span>.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n It must be clear that for love to work, loving each other is not enough. <\/span>We need to learn about being a <\/span><\/span>couple<\/span><\/span><\/a> . <\/span>We must prepare and stop daydreaming. <\/span>This soap opera culture is killing us. <\/span>The most difficult relationship of the ball in the world is that. <\/span>If it does not work, the children and the family are affected, and if you did not know it, society is nothing more than the sum of all families. <\/span>No wonder we are so bad.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n We also know that a <\/span>badly handled <\/span><\/span>divorce<\/span><\/span><\/a> is just as damaging as a marriage full of fights and conflicts, where children are used and involved in the affairs of the couple. <\/span>In every family there must be inviolable borders, even if they are flexible. <\/span>Mom and dad’s affairs are handled only by them. <\/span>The spouses have to take care of their relationship and not confuse it with that of being parents. <\/span>We cannot forget to take care of the couple to focus only on the children. <\/span>We will be parents for life but being a couple will depend on what you do with your relationship.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n In a <\/span><\/span>divorce,<\/span><\/span><\/a> children must know that they are not at fault and that they will continue to be loved and protected. <\/span>Children must be informed of the <\/span><\/span>divorce<\/span><\/span><\/a> and why the parents believe they are getting divorced, WITHOUT SPEAKING EVIL ABOUT THE OTHER. <\/span>We must respect the image that the child should have of his father-mother. <\/span>Studies indicate that children end up having serious conflicts with the parent who speaks ill of the other parent.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n I read on the cover of a magazine something in relation to couples and the need to avoid divorce since it affects children. Did they discover America? I am really concerned about ignorance on this subject, so I address it over and over again, to see if people and the media understand it. The first […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":4428,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"rank_math_lock_modified_date":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[115,14,23],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2107","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-asi-piensa-nancy","category-familiares","category-sin-categoria"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/dranancy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2107"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/dranancy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/dranancy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dranancy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dranancy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2107"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/dranancy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2107\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":7915,"href":"https:\/\/dranancy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2107\/revisions\/7915"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dranancy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4428"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/dranancy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2107"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dranancy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2107"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dranancy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2107"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}What does it take to have a ‘good divorce’?<\/span><\/span><\/strong><\/h3>\n
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